Zoe: “I became a mother with borrowed eggs”

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Zoe: “I became a mother with borrowed eggs”

Zoe is one of us… It could be our friend or sister. She is a woman who at the beginning of the fourth decade of her life decides the most important step. Having a child with IVF.

Zoe shares with us everything she felt when she wanted to become a mother. The hopes, the dreams but also the difficulties that this journey hides.

“My story begins a few years ago when my husband and I got married. We decided to get into the process of having a child right away, but unfortunately, things were not so easy for us.

After some exams, we learned that there is a problem and that we have to go for IVF. And somewhere there the adventure begins. After three extracorporeal, re-examination, laparoscopy, the doctors decided that the child was a difficult case for us.

We decided that we would be left without a child, but the hope never died deep inside me. Talking to our doctor, I learned that I can do IVF but with foreign eggs. I do not hide from you that I was worried. The dilemma is great. Will the donor be healthy? Will there be heredity issues? What will the child look like?

The moment you realize that you can not have a child except with borrowed eggs, you get a shock.

The other option was adoption but my husband and I had decided that it did not suit us. I wanted a child that I would have given birth to. To raise him from the first moment he is born, to be constantly with him from his first breath. So we chose a donor and the embryo transfer took place.

It never occurs to me today that my child came from an Egg Bank. All I feel is that my heart beats with hers and I know very well that I am his mom. After all, I can say that I am glad I made that decision. I have already forgotten any doubts or concerns I had about foreign eggs.